Song of Solomon 8:3 “His left hand should be under my head, and his right hand should embrace me.” This verse is almost an exact repeat of 2:6, where the wife says, “His left hand is under my head, and his right hand doth embrace me.” The only difference is in the verb. Here in 8:3 it is “should be…should embrace” rather than stating the fact that he “is.” The first three verses of this chapter are all in the subjunctive voice, expressing a desire for something to be true which has not actually happened up to this point, but the present tense, imperative charge in verse 4 makes it evident that the bride’s wish for communion did at last come true.
What a blessed thought that the Lord honors our ardent spiritual desires by eventually making them into spiritual realities. If we desire no barriers…there will at last be none! In our earlier discussion (2:6) the emphasis was on the spiritual nature of this loving embrace, and well it should have been, since the Song of Solomon, as the only biblical picture of the mysterious relationship between God and Israel (as well as the mystery of Christ and his bride), is ever and foremost a guide to spiritual love.
However, with this expression of a desire for the experience to be repeated, let’s consider the physical relationship as well. What exactly was Solomon’s bride wishing for here? It is obvious from this verse that the wife desires to intoxicate her husband not only with those loving preparations meant to relax him and bring him joy, but also with the expressions of her love in the deepest sense…to partake of him and give back to him…to become one with him with the intimacy only allowed in marriage. Many of life’s most beautiful thoughts are conveyed in the unspoken eloquence of silent action, and I truly believe that for the great majority of men, the most profound way for a wife to express her love to him is through giving and accepting sexual pleasure, which is what we see developing in this verse. If the physical reality is that the wife is wishing for sexual communion with her husband, what does that say for us today, and what are the spiritual implications of that wish? First, it seems that this is the perfect time for every wife (and husband too, really) to take a personal inventory of her-his secret “wish list.” If you could have anything you wanted, what would it be? What is your heart longing for most of all? Is it something material: a new house, a new car, a cottage on the lake, a special vacation…new clothes, a new appliance or power tool, new jewelry or sports equipment; new music? Do you want something more, or just something different? Maybe new friends, a new church, a new school situation for your family, or a new job situation? Oh, there are so many things we could wish for.
Dig deeper. Is there something even more important that you’re wishing for? Maybe a better relationship with someone you love…or don’t love? Maybe restoration of a broken friendship, or the healing of a strained relationship? Or, do you just long for more of a good thing…more happiness, more joy, more peace, more love…to know God better and love him more dearly…to understand your spouse better and love him with a deeper, sweeter, purer love?
The Song of Solomon records the cry of the wife’s heart, and it is to love and be loved by her husband in a very tangible, literal, physical way. Is this the cry of your heart? If it is, then praise God for such heat! If it is not, and rarely ever or never seems to be, then ask God why, and ask him how to change your heart so that you do truly have a passionate desire for your spouse.