Song of Solomon 1:4 “Draw me, we will run after thee.” This is the bride speaking, asking her lover to draw her to himself, with the understanding that if he will draw her, not only she…but her companions…will be drawn to pursue him. From the New Testament, we know that this is exactly the process of God’s work in our lives. It is God who draws us. Jesus said, “No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him” (John 6:44). What draws us to Jesus? He said, “And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me” (John 12:32; this happened when Christ was “lifted up” on the cross). We are drawn to Christ as we understand the depth of his sacrificial love for us, and then this love motivates us to love others (2 Cor. 5:14).In Christ’s perfect example, we see another key for anyone who longs to draw another person towards himself (or herself). Draw her with “cords of love” (Hosea 11:4)… acts of kindness. When I was eight, I understood that a cute classmate liked me because he lobbed snowballs in my direction after school every day. Playful expressions of interest are pleasant at any age, but deep down every female is looking for a male who will honor, protect, and cherish her. What seems appealing at eight can be irritating at eighteen and totally inappropriate at twenty-eight. Grow up. Be mature! If you want a lover, love her. We all need a hero like Christ, who laid down his life for us. Be a hero.
How do we attract others? By treating them with honor and respect. By seeing and meeting their needs. By providing for them…sometimes even before they realize what they’ll need. If you’re looking for a spouse (or—of course—it’s appropriate for all of us at all times to try to) be magnetically good, and you will be almost impossible to resist! I’ll tell you, the night a woman ran a red light and totaled Carl’s car was the night I decided Carl could marry my daughter. You know why? Because this young man’s first thought was to reach over and protect Kathy from the impact…to get her out of the car…to make sure she was alright. I never heard him say an unkind or angry word against the woman who hit them (and was totally at fault). And you know what? Carl is a great husband! He genuinely loves her, and he is genuinely kind. Definitely magnetic attraction!
“Draw me, we will run after thee.” So, the bride asks the groom to draw her, and having been drawn, she willingly pursues him. One of my husband’s favorite lines is from a Dudley Do Right cartoon, where the heroic Canadian Mountie’s girlfriend, Nell, captures the “bad guys” by getting them to follow her into the Royal Canadian Mounted Police camp. When asked if the men “Put up quite a
fight, did they?” her response is, “Oh, no, they seemed to come willingly!” Isn’t it true that if we are attracted enough to someone, we will just about follow that person anywhere? American President Dwight Eisenhower was famous for his philosophy on how to get troops to follow him: “It’s easier to pull a rope than to push it.” If you are are an attractive person and a good leader—if you are drawing near to God yourself—then you will find that others will naturally follow you in your pursuit of God.God draws us to himself, and then we find ourselves desiring to be drawn nearer. “Draw nigh unto my soul, and redeem it,” we cry out to God (Psalm 69:18). “Draw nigh to God, and He will draw nigh to you,” comes the reply (James 4:8). Our spirit calls back, “It is good for me to draw near to God“ (Psalm 73:28). “Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience” (Heb. 10:22).Our verse says, “Draw me, we will run after thee.” Notice the transition from singular to plural…from “me” to “we.” The testimony from Scripture resounds, “It is good for me to draw near…Let us draw near…” After we have been drawn to Christ, we will pursue him ourselves, but we will also draw others to pursue him with us.Are you drawing close to God? A.W. Tozer wrote a classic book called The Pursuit of God, which really helped me and has encouraged countless people in their search for a closer walk with Jesus. A beautiful song by Kelly Carpenter called “Draw Me Close,” has the refrain, “You’re all I want. You’re all I’ve ever needed.” As we draw nearer to God, we discover that he has been very near to us all the time. May we experience God in our lives as a comforting presence as warm and close as a comforter wrapped snugly around us on a cold winter’s night.