Have You Experienced Being Indivisible? How About Iraq?

If you are in the military, have a loved one in the military, or would like to get a little better appreciation for the sacrifices and challenges facing those who are giving their lives to protect our safety, then I want to encourage you to watch Indivisible. (By the way, I’m guessing the pressures and problems would be very similar for any military personnel from a democratic nation.)

Indivisible (2018) is based on the true story of Army Chaplain Darren Turner, who was deployed to Iraq back in 2007, fresh out of seminary and basic training.

This left his wife, Heather, alone at Fort Stewart to care for their three young children among the community of other women whose husbands were also deployed.

Every deployment is dangerous and gut-wrenchingly difficult, but Darren ended up supporting the Special Forces, which was sort of the hardest of the hard!

I have a son in the military who was deployed to Iraq, and I can vouch for the constant strain and fear that I battled as a mother, who spent many hours on her knees while he was gone.

Indivisible does a masterful job of relating the terrors and traumas of war. Will our loved one survive? Will he be injured? Will he recover?

Even if he survives, will he be able to overcome all the horrors of death and destruction that he’s experienced?

What about the wives who’ve been left behind, who are constantly plagued by an emotional roller coaster of worry while trying to be emotionally stable for their children?

For many families, life is never quite the same after living through a deployment, and trying to rebuild a strong marriage bond is more of a challenge than some marriages can handle.

The lessons that Darren and Heather learned (and have been willing to share) are critical for young couples who are serving in the military. I wish every person in the service or who has a loved one in military service would see this movie!

It’s raw. It’s real. It’s sad, but there’s also a message of hope for a light at the end of the tunnel of PTSD and broken hearts.

God made a way for Darren, Heather, and a bunch of brave young soldiers and their wives, and He can do the same for you.

No trial has come to you but what is human. God is faithful and will not let you be tried beyond your strength; but with the trial he will also provide a way out, so that you may be able to bear it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NABRE).

Waiting for His Heart: Lessons from a Wife Who Chose to Stay

05If any of you struggle in a marriage where your spouse is caught in some type of addiction (or if you have a friend or relative who struggles…and that probably includes most of us), then I would really like to recommend Joy McClain’s account of her 20-year heartache and eventual reward for persevering in a marriage with an alcoholic husband.  Waiting for his Heart is fresh off the press from Moody (published in 2012), available at Amazon, and both gut-wrenchingly honest and inspirational. It’s a tear-jerker that I just couldn’t put down.01I was blessed with a gift copy from my “little sister,” Lizzie. Joy spoke at a ladies retreat in Indianapolis a few months ago that Liz had invited me to attend with her, but thus far in my journey, I have never felt good about leaving Alan for02anything less than a dire emergency (or new grand baby), and so I didn’t go. But, don’t you love forever friends? Liz and her dear husband, Chuck, visited this04 past weekend. Chuck’s 44th birthday was on Christmas Eve, but I wanted to celebrate with a birthday cake anyway! Lizzie is 9 years younger than I am, and 03Chuck is 9 years younger than Lizzie (which means Chuck was only 4 when Alan and I got married…hard to imagine!). Chuck fell in love with Lizzie at the tender Chuck and Liz about 2003age of 32; (Liz was 41). They had a first-and-only wedding (for both of them) 12 years ago. And, you know what?  I don’t know if anybody could tell there’s an age difference between them. Chuck is just a wonderful husband, and they have a solid, happy marriage. So…if you’re single, don’t lose hope! And, if you’re in a troubled marriage, don’t lose hope! If you’re happy with your marital status … well then, praise God and REJOICE!

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”            (1 Corinthians 10:13)