If you’ve been married for a long time and everybody (but you) thinks you have a pretty ideal relationship, this movie might bring a spark of light and hope into your marriage. It tells what really happens in the majority of “happily ever after” stories. Beautiful couple. Madly in love. Successful career. Everything has gone more or less right for twenty years… And, then— Well, then the kids grow up and prepare to marry. Mom spends all her time taking care of everybody under the sun (but herself and her husband), and husband feels a little abandoned and restless…which makes Mom feel undermined and unsupported just when she needs all the help she can get. Sound familiar? I’ve not only experienced the challenges myself, probably more of my friends than are willing to admit it have gone through similar low points in their marriages.When I was a young wife, I used to marvel at couples who’d been married for 50+ years. The couples I knew were patient and kind. The husbands dotted on their wives and expressed appreciation, and the wives had a certain sparkle and security that you don’t really see in young marriages. I wondered how that all happened and if Alan and I would ever have a relationship like that. Now in our 46th year, I’d say we have a pretty happy, stable relationship, but it took close to forever and only after surviving a lot of deep water together. A Time to Dance is a beautifully sensitive rendition of this almost universal problem.The title of the movie made me smile, because after I became a Christian, I was taught that dancing was “worldly” and so quit. However, as this movie points out, there is, indeed, “a time to dance” (at least metaphorically, Ecclesiastes 3:4)!
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
9 What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth?
10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
12 I know that there is no good in them, but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life.
13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God. (Ecclesiastes 3:1-13)