Category Archives: Aging and Retirement Issues

Restoration Over Rest at Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services

group-of-employees-receiving-5-year-awardsPine Rest just celebrated their annual employee appreciation and award evening, gourmet-dinner-at-pine-restcomplete with a gourmet dinner group-of-people-receiving-employee-awardsand awards for employees
who have served 5, 10, 15, 20…and on up in increments of 5 years. recipient-of-55-year-service-award-at-pine-restOne lady flew back from Florida to receive her 55-year service award!
Can you imagine working at the same ministry for 55 years?!

employee-appreciation-dinner-at-pine-restThis bright, beautiful lady shared that the reason she’s persevered so long is that she has the same heart for ministry as Pine Rest: compassionate Christian care for those with mental health needs.pine-rest-appreciation-dinner-awardsAlan has been working at PRCH (Pine Rest Christian Hospital) for 23 years, so he wasn’t up for an award, but because he’s the CMO (chief medical officer), we’re always invited to enjoy the festivities and honor the faithful employees! pine-rest-ceo-addresses-employeesOur CEO, Mark, is such a stalwart, spiritually-minded leader, and he gave a brief but very memorable message about “Two Holy Moments.” He said the first is when people wake up in the morning and make the decision to go into work, even though they’d rather sleep and are weary of putting aside their own needs to serve others. The second is when they are at work and choose to be present with those who are suffering. Pine Rest ministers to over 50,000 people each year. Like all attempts at intervention, many people are helped, but not all can be healed. However, employees can all express love by their presence and efforts to assist in the healing process. This is a second “holy” moment: Choosing to love each patient and serve them with “compassion and understanding in time of need and offer hope and help through the provision of excellent care.” ceo-of-pine-restThat’s a very high calling, but I think it’s something we can all ascribe to in our daily lives, no matter what our job is, be it leading a company, serving others in hospital or school settings, working as a mechanic, waitress, hairdresser, babysitter, parent, or whatever!

Are you struggling with your job? I’m not saying you should stay in whatever job you have at present, but I would like to encourage you to feel a sense of holiness about whatever job you’re doing. Offer your decision to work as a sacrifice to God, choosing restoration over rest. As an offering to God, choose to love those you serve by providing excellent care. It will tinge what might otherwise be drudgery with the glow of Shekinah glory.

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God” (Romans 12:1-2).

And, here’s a verse that just struck me this morning as Alan and I were reading together: “ So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you” (2 Corinthians 4:12, NIV). When we serve others in love for the sake of Christ, we are literally giving our life so that others may live. But, if we have eternal life within us by faith in Christ, then to give of our lives to bring “many sons to glory” is a supremely beautiful exchange!

A Study in Aging Beautifully: Gardenias

As I mentioned yesterday, Alan and I just celebrated our 44th anniversary
this past weekend, and it occurs to me that we’re getting pretty old!gardenia-plantHere’s just a little thought, but I have a gardenia plant,
and I’ve been so inspired by watching it bloom! wilting-roses-at-nelson-mandelas-homeDo you know how most flowers turn brown on the edges as they get oldwilting-roses-in-africabecoming wilted and all bedraggled by the time they die? gardenia-flower-unfurlingWell, my gardenia blossoms unfold like a pinwheel of pure white…white-pure-rose-africa-copy-2slowly unfurling their petals day by day until their blooms
are as full and fragrant as the finest rose. gardeniaHowever, as gardenias age, the blossoms don’t turn brown like withering roses, they gradually turn deeper and deeper shades of yellow.gardenia-plantI would like to learn to age beautifully, like gardenias,
continuing to flourish and produce fruit until the day I die!   baobab-tree-the-big-tree-zimbabwe12 The righteous flourish like the palm tree
    and grow like a cedar in Lebanon.
13 They are planted in the house of the Lord;
    they flourish in the courts of our God.
14 They still bear fruit in old age;
    they are ever full of sap and green,
15 to declare that the Lord is upright;
    he is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.”
(Psalm 92:12-15, NIV, emphasis mine)

(The baobab tree in this last photo is called “The Big Tree.”
We saw it recently while we were in Zimbabwe. It’s somewhere between 1000-1500 years old, and it’s still producing flowers and fruit!
Talk about incredible and inspirational!!)

 

When Do You Know If It’s Your Last Holiday?

happy-anniversary-card-for-spouseToday is Presidents’ Day…a special holiday set aside to honor all the amazing men who’ve shaped our country. I really want to share some thought-provoking quotations on time today rather than discussing the attributes and weaknesses of our various presidents (although I will confess to having done more than my fair share of complaining over the years and felt admonished by reading in Acts 23:5 last week, where Paul said, “You shall not speak evil of a ruler of your people”). card-for-appreciating-spouseLast Tuesday was Valentines Day, and last weekend Alan and I celebrated our 44th anniversary. As we are now 66, that means we’ve now lived two-thirds of our lives together! That’s almost hard to imagine, even for us!!  🙂

I’ve really been thinking a lot about the privilege of still having a mate with whom to share holidays in the light of an increasing number of friends who’ve lost their mates in the past 10 years. In Sunday school, one of those friends, Jay Link, passed along some good food for thought on the topic of time, and I’d like to share a few of his quotes with you today:

“Time flies over us, but leaves its shadow behind.” Nathaniel Hawthorne

“Time is the most valuable thing a man can spend.” Theophrastus

“Lost time is never found again.” Benjamin Franklin

“The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.” C.S. Lewis

“Time is what we want most, but…what we use worst.” William Penn

“We must use time as a tool, not as a crutch.” John F. Kennedy

“Time changes everything except something within us which is always surprised by change.” Thomas Hardy

“Time is the longest distance between two places.” Tennessee Williams

“Better three hours too soon, than one minute too late.” William Shakespeare

“Time = life; therefore, waste you time and waste your life, or master your time and master your life.” Alan Lakein

“The key is not in spending time, but in investing it.” Stephen R. Covey

“Mind the moments because they become your memories.” Jane Anderson 🙂

valentine-for-wifeJay’s thoughts: Allot time to each season of life with care and intention, learning to grow in wisdom as we go. Each season of life is new to us, and it represents a path we haven’t traveled before. If it takes approximately 10,000 hours to become proficient at something, that’s about as long as many of the stages of life we pass through. I don’t know who said it, but Jay mentioned that in a car, the front windshield is larger than the rear-view mirror, because what’s in our future needs more of our attention than what’s already behind us.happy-anniversary-cardAnd, here’s my humble thought from becoming increasingly appreciative of every day Alan and I still have together: You never really know when it’s your last holiday, so “Savor each holiday as if it might be your last, because it might.”

heart-shaped-valentineSo teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.”
Psalm 90:12

 

Larry Rivera and Elvis Presley: Choosing the Slow Life

aloha-begins-with-me-larry-rivera-and-alanWhile at the Mayo Clinic conference last week, we saved mega bucks
by eating at various hole-in-the wall restaurants in nearby Koloa alan-at-the-grand-hyatt-kauairather than venturing into the luxo locations on site at our resort. garden-island-grill-menu-kauaiAmong these, one of our favorites was the Garden Island Grill, ono-fresh-catch-of-the-day-at-garden-island-grille-kauaiwhere, between 6-8 pm on the weekends, Larry Rivera entertains his friends, larry-rivera-with-his-new-friend-alanfamily, and new friends (whoever happens to be passing through).

larry-riveraLarry is 86. The day we visited, he was celebrating his 60th anniversary with his lovely bride and says he’s still on his honeymoon! They have 6 kids, 17 grand kids, and 18 great grand kids. Furthermore, he can say all their names in 35 seconds (±). Want to hear his story?  larry-rivera-sings-at-the-garden-island-grilleLarry was born in 1931, the sixth generation in a long line of Hawaiians born in Kauai. He started working at the Coco Palms Resort at 20, was called to serve in the Korean War, and by 24 (1955), he was back to work at the Coco Palms singing with his group called “The Beach Boys.” He says the ones we know today “stole” his band’s name and ended up with all the money and glory, but who cares? “I’ve got all this love!” he beamed, his arms sweeping the audience where his wife sat smiling and then flying out and up to embrace his island and the sky, where His Father sat smiling. (Rivera is an ordained minister as well as a musician.) larry-rivera-singing-with-a-friend-and-his-wife Larry’s long musical career included such highlights as teaching Bing Crosby how to sing (Hawaiian style), watching Frank Sinatra nearly drown on Wailua Beach (surfers rescued him), having John Denver join in a hula with his daughters while Larry sang, and having Elvis Presley and Patti Page sing background vocals for him while they were visiting at Coco Palms. (Actually, Larry said Elvis was an unusually sweet person. He would bus tables just to be kind if things got to hectic at the restaurant, and he paid $500 for one of Larry’s songs!) In 1961, the wedding scene from Blue Hawaii, starring Elvis Presley, was filmed at Coco Palms. Larry was 30, and Elvis was 26. Very sadly, Elvis Presley died just 16 years later at age 42 from “cardiac arrhythmia” (caused by an overdose of a pain killer, Codeine, and a nonbarbituate sedative, Quaalude). He was divorced by then and only had one child, Lisa Marie. He has four grandchildren (whom he never met), and no great grandchildren at this time.  kathi-at-the-garden-island-grille-kauaiI don’t know about you, but I would personally choose Larry Rivera’s life over Elvis’s any day. Larry has lived more than twice as long, is still fit at a fiddle (balanced on one leg and did other tricks for fun), working hard, living well, and full of love and joy. Alan and I were both totally delighted and inspired. If we make it to 86, we’ll have been married 64 years. (That’s 20 more years; think we’ll make it??) Would I ever love to be able to work a few hours singing and sharing the love of God and man with those around me at his age, wouldn’t you?  hawaiian-time-signHow did he do it? Well, for one thing, he chose the slow life. He chose to stay in his homeland among his own people. He chose to stay with his wife. He chose to remain faithful to His God. To me, those are admirable choices! What do you think? Would you rather have fame and fortune, or love and happiness?dinner-at-the-island-grille-kauai“And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord (Joshua 24:15).

(“Aloha” is used by Hawaiians as a greeting, both “hello” and “goodbye,” but ultimately it means “Love… affection, peace, compassion, and mercy!”)

 

 

Happy Dawn of 2017!

sunrise-from-the-air-22Can you believe it’s the dawn of a new year?  sunrise-from-the-airWhen Alan and I were kids (back in the dark ages), sunrise-from-the-air-2neither of us got past imagining how old we’d be in 2000. sunrise-from-the-air-3We’d be 50…pretty much ancient! sunrise-from-the-air-4If “three score and ten” expresses a natural life time, sunrise-from-the-air-5then in just three more years we’ll be in to overtime. sunrise-from-the-air-6Yikes! sunrise-from-the-air-7Is it only the people who haven’t figured out how to finish the game by 70 sunrise-from-the-air-8who have to play extra innings? sunrise-from-the-air-9On the way home from a recent trip to visit family in Florida, sunrise-from-the-air-14I watched in wonder as our plane skimmed above the clouds sunrise-from-the-air-1while the sun rose with unusual splendor. sunrise-from-the-air-27Often, my flight path takes me above the clouds, but for whatever reason, sunrise-from-the-air-10this flight sailed between the layers of clouds, sunrise-from-the-air-30and I was also heading northwest, sunrise-from-the-air-11so the sunrise lasted much longer than usual. sunrise-from-the-air-12I think it was a combination of elevation, direction, and clouds sunrise-from-the-air-13that made the sunrise so splendid: sunrise-from-the-air-28rising, heading home, sunrise-from-the-air-15peering through the ever shifting clouds that obscured the sun sunrise-from-the-air-23but made every appearance all the more glorious and captivating… sunrise-from-the-air-25Isn’t that just how life is? sunrise-from-the-air-19It’s the struggle to rise, sunrise-from-the-air-26to journey home, sunrise-from-the-air-29and to deal with the clouds of life sunrise-from-the-air-16that makes every appearance of the Son so precious to us. pastel-sunrise-over-cloudsAs we begin this new year, may we experience a fresh Sonrise in our souls…sunrise-from-the-air-18one that lasts a long time, sunrise-from-the-air-24totally captivates us, sunrise-from-the-air-21and causes us to stand in awe of our glorious God.  sunrise-from-the-air-17He gathereth the waters of the sea together as an heap:
he layeth up the depth in storehouses.
sunrise-from-the-air-20Let all the earth fear the Lord:
let all the inhabitants of the world stand in awe of him
” (Psalm 33:7-9).

 

New Year’s Resolutions

candles-glowingDo you make New Year’s Resolutions? Back in 1973, one of my brother-in-laws playfully announced that his resolution was going to be the same as always: “More in ’74.” When I asked, “More what?” he responded, “Eat more popcorn, of course.” Forty-three years later, I’ve found that my resolutions are often alarmingly similar from year to year. “More in ’74 (or 2017)” is about right, but that’s more exercise not popcorn, and the second one is like unto it: “Eat less” (of everything). Alan was lamenting to one of our sons about our inability to maintain proper dietary and exercise routines, but our son consoled us, “Yes, but just think about what you might be like if you didn’t even try!” True enough. As discouraging as it is to be striving and never succeeding at maintaining a truly svelte body, there’s something to the striving that helps. So, I’m going to keep making my resolutions and “keep on keepin’ on” as I was encouraged to do at my alma mater.  fun-togetherBy the way, even though the first thing that usually pops into my brain when I’m examining my life is how I look on the outside, there’s something of infinitely more importance, and that’s how I’m doing on the inside. We humans are body, soul, and spirit…emotions, will, mind, heart…How am I doing at loving the Lord above all else? At loving others as I love myself? At growing in my spirit?

As we examine our lives this New Year’s Eve, I pray we’re inspired by these verses from Philippians 3:7-11: But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ  and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith—that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.

Struggling with the Ghost of Christmas Past?

christmas-tree-and-giftsI have friends in their 80s who just moved to an assisted living center. Christmas DinnerIt will be the first time in 60+ years that
they won’t be celebrating Christmas in their own home. 2015-opening-christmas-presentsWhat a sad thought that is to me! 😦2013-igloo I have a sister in her 70s who never married.skyping-for-christmasShe’s recovering from a bad bout of bronchitis2012-christmas-via-skypeand will have to celebrate Christmas all alone.2013-christmas-babiesI have a friend in his 60s who lost his wife not long ago to breast cancer.
They had no children.
2014-stuffed-pig-under-christmas-treeHis brother invited him over for Christmas,
but he’ll be returning to an empty house. christmas-2011Another friend just lost him mom and says that for the first time in 63 years
he’ll have no “home” to go to for Christmas. merry-christmas-morningAnother friend in his 40s who’s never married lost him mom three years ago, 12-30-12-christmas-dinnerbut his father has become so emotionally withdrawn and unwelcoming
that my friend doesn’t have the courage to even attempt a visit.brothers-with-reindeer-hornsI have three sons in their 30-40s who have wonderful wives and kidshappy-christmas-dinnerbut for various reasons none can make it home for Christmas this year. 2013-christmasI will miss them severely, and I think they’ll miss being home as well. 2013-quadrivium-2I have a friend in his 20s whose mom is just recovering
from a frightening stroke and hospitalization. 2013-family-photo-2He’ll be home for Christmas, but many of his siblings won’t be,
and that’s painful too. 2013-christmas-playing-on-iceAnd, the list goes on.

christmas-eve-joyI was talking to my sister yesterday, and she mentioned that she still dreams of going home for Christmas and remembers the carefree days when our family was all together and everyone had sparkling eyes.  2015-christmas-dinner-celebrationI realize that many people never even had the experience of a happy childood.christmas-princess-dressesI had a girl friend in college whose most graphic Christmas memory was looking through a neighbor’s window admiring their beautiful tree and presents…knowing that a dark house and a drunken father awaited her.

2015-christmas-family-disney-tripDo you dream of past Christmases
that were more exciting than your present circumstances? 2015-christmas-babyAlthough Alan and I are looking forward to celebrating with our Michigan kids on Monday, this Christmas Eve and Christmas Day we’ll only have one son.tiny-snowmen         Please don’t misunderstand. 2014-christmas-stephen-and-joel                I’m very grateful to have my dear husband and youngest son,

a-christmas-family-shot-2but it’s hard not to notice the contrast and feel a little nostalgic when your circumstances change and you can no longer enjoy the overflowing abundance that Christmas Past brings to mind. 2013-christmas-bundled-for-sleigh-rideIf you are struggling with the prospects of your Christmas Present feeling disappointing compared to the happiness you’ve experienced in the past, may I encourage you to look up?

2014-christmas-visit                God the Father is looking down, longing for your fellowship. 2013-christmas-exchange-studentsGod the Son, whose birth we celebrate, is at the Father’s right hand.
Can  you see Him there? 2015-christmas-funHe loves you with an everlasting love and longs for you to commune with Him. 2015-celebrating-christmasThe Ghost of Christmas Present can’t even begin to compare with
the Holy Ghost, who’s calling you to Himself. 2015-christmas-art-projectHave you figured this out yet?
2015-christmas-little-boy-and-big-bearIf you have no where else to go and no one else to talk to…Rejoice! God is here! opening-christmas-giftsTalk to Him. Worship Him. Know that He longs for you to accept the gift of His love this Christmas. “Oh come, let us adore Him, Christ the Lord!”

christmas-party-2That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ. And these things write we unto you, that your joy may be full” (1 John 1:3-4).2015-christmas-opening-presentsPS—All these photos were taken of Christmases in the last five years, when our home was full of children, chaos, and overwhelming joy!