Not only do two of our sons now live on the West Coast,
we have three siblings and their families who live in the San Francisco Bay area. Alan’s only sister and her husband, Frank,lived on a ranch out in the rolling hills overlooking Livermore Valley, although Alan’s sister passed (not away but on I love to say,
because I know she’s with the Lord in heaven now). Her graduation to glory occurred four years ago, and frankly, it was so painful for Alan that he hadn’t had the heart to visit the homestead again until now. Being 5 years older, Jan “mothered” Alan from infancy, and in some ways really did become a second mother (to both of us) after Alan’s mother died (when Alan was 29). At any rate, Alan loved Jan dearly & was totally devastated by her loss. However, this spring it was time to return, and what a blessing it was to us! Jan and Frank had (still have) two children: a girl and a boy, and their daughter, Joli, and her husband, Brett, live on a ranch just down the hill from Frank’s home. Joli and Brett also have a girl and a boy, and seeing their darling kids brought back so many happy memories
of when our niece and nephew were growing up in this home. (Joli and Brett’s daughter is an award-winning gymnast; can you tell?)There is so much of Jan in Joli, and so much of Joli in her daughter Annie. Losing a loved one is terrible, and I think sometimes as humans we tend to try to reduce the pain by withdrawing from everything that reminds us of our loss,
but it’s actually very healing to go back and reconnect. Have you withdrawn from loved ones because of a painful loss? May I encourage you to consider going back and reconnecting? It’s counter-intuitive mentally, and very difficult emotionally,
but I think it’s the best way to salve souls…ours and theirs! “The Lord preserves the simple; when I was brought low, he saved me.
Return, O my soul, to your rest; for the Lord has dealt bountifully with you.
For you have delivered my soul from death, my eyes from tears,
my feet from stumbling” (Psalm 116:6-8).