Finding Healing in Visiting Family

Visiting FamilyNot only do two of our sons now live on the West Coast,
we have three siblings and their families who live in the San Francisco Bay area. Jan and FrankAlan’s only sister and her husband, Frank,Rolling Hills of Californialived on a ranch out in the rolling hills overlooking Livermore Valley, Full moon risingalthough Alan’s sister passed (not away but on I love to say,
because I know she’s with the Lord in heaven now). Full moon over CA hillsHer graduation to glory occurred four years ago, and frankly, it was so painful for Alan that he hadn’t had the heart to visit the homestead again until now. JanBeing 5 years older, Jan “mothered” Alan from infancy, and in some ways really did become a second mother (to both of us) after Alan’s mother died (when Alan was 29). At any rate, Alan loved Jan dearly & was totally devastated by her loss. GymnasticsHowever, this spring it was time to return, and what a blessing it was to us! Child playing pianoJan and Frank had (still have) two children: a girl and a boy, Feeding the chickensand their daughter, Joli, and her husband, Brett,Laying Hens live on a ranch just down the hill from Frank’s home. Child playing guitar Joli and Brett also have a girl and a boy, acrobatic stuntand seeing their darling kids brought back so many happy memories
of when our niece and nephew were growing up in this home. Doing the splits(Joli and Brett’s daughter is an award-winning gymnast; can you tell?)Pizza PartyThere is so much of Jan in Joli, and so much of Joli in her daughter Annie. Playing guitarLosing a loved one is terrible, and I think sometimes as humans we tend to try to reduce the pain by withdrawing from everything that reminds us of our loss,
but it’s actually very healing to go back and reconnect. Hills above Livermore VAlleyHave you withdrawn from loved ones because of a painful loss? Back at the ranchMay I encourage you to consider going back and reconnecting? Listening to kids play musicIt’s counter-intuitive mentally, and very difficult emotionally,
but I think it’s the best way to salve souls…ours and theirs!  Sunset at the ranch“The Lord preserves the simple; when I was brought low, he saved me.
Return, O my soul, to your rest;
for the Lord has dealt bountifully with you.
For you have delivered my soul from death, my eyes from tears,

my feet from stumbling” (Psalm 116:6-8).



5 responses to “Finding Healing in Visiting Family

  1. Roze Meyer Bruins

    This is so beautiful! Thank you!

  2. This is so very true. And what a beautiful place to return to! I’m so happy that the visit to the west coast give you and Alan so much pleasure.

  3. Charylene Powers

    Holding family close is so important – you post is perfect.

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