Last October I wrote about visiting Grace Seminary in Winona Lake, Indiana, where I attended graduate school some 42+ years ago. This October I want to share about visiting another Grace Bible College…one that’s right here in Grand Rapids! Yesterday morning I had the privilege of addressing
a group of beautiful young ladies who are preparing for lives of service and ministry. My dear friend, Kayleen, teaches the class. She’s one of the most gifted musicians I know personally, as well as one of the most effervescent, godly women!Over the years, we’ve been through some very deep waters and some wonderful times of ministry together, and for whatever reason, the Lord laid it on her heart to offer me the privilege of speaking to her girls on the subject of
“Worshiping God as a Married Woman.” I’m too much of a motor mouth to condense 1.5 hours of speaking
into 5 minutes of reading material, so I won’t try to unpack anything
or give handy illustrations, but let me at least share the four key points. (Yes, they did teach me in seminary that no message should have
more than 3 points. I admit to failure.)
So, in a practical sense, what does it mean to “worship” as a married woman?
1. It means living a life made new by faith: 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” If we’re a believer, whether we are married to another person or still single, we are “married” to God in a beautiful, spiritual mystery of communion and trust that exceeds any other relationship on earth. 2. To worship means to live a life of total surrender: Romans 12:1-2, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” God calls us to a life of complete surrender: To Himself first and foremost, and if we are married, to our husbands as well. Note: If our husbands love us the way Christ loves the church, submission becomes a blessing, not a curse. Marriage is intended to be an expression of the ineffable periochoresis found within the trinity. If you want more info, see this post: https://kathrynwarmstrong.wordpress.com/2014/12/08/periochoresis-love-within-our-triune-god/3. It is an act of worship to live our lives guided by scripture: Titus 2: 3-5, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Sounds simple, but it’s a lifetime super challenge!!! Bless my oldest son’s wife, who just moved cross country with their 4 kids so her husband could follow his career dreams. 4. To worship means living our lives filled with praise and prayer: Psalm 22:3, “But thou art holy, O thou that inhabitest the praises of Israel.” We have been created to worship and called to praise. Praise exalts God and focuses our hearts on Him, changing our attitudes and freeing our hearts to live lives of joyful surrender. In prayer, we bring our needs to God, entrusting them to Him.As wives, we can minister to our husbands through praise and prayer as well.
It’s a blessed man who has an encouraging, gentle-spirited wife for a life partner!