Valentine’s Grief Observed

DeVosDid you have a happy Valentine’s Day? We did, although it included Chinese take-out to the hospital so we could see Sammy. Before Jon was blessed by a purple tulip (one of a bunch that Gerlinde was joyfully passing out to all her single friends on Valentine’s Day some years ago) and consequently happily married, Jon used to call February 14 “Singles’ Awareness Day.” Purple Tulips from Jon to Linda 2.14.15(Jon now brings Gerlinde purple tulips every Valentine’s Day!)  My favorite facebook greeting last Saturday came from another good-hearted single: “Happy Valentines Day to those who are married, in a relationship, single, divorced, separated, widowed, all the children under 13, & the teenagers!” Amen to that!Valentine's Skiing                         Yes, Saturday was a happy day for my family personally, Ada Bible Church but it was a very sad day for a number of my dear friends, including one who had spent Friday saying goodbye to her husband of 40 years, who had died suddenly and totally unexpectedly while she was stranded out East on a business trip.GriefGrief 2 Here is the profound lament written by another dear friend after losing the love of his life to cancer before 2015 unfolded in her pristine robes of white:

“Fall with me into
The deep abyss of sadness
Swallowing my heart.”
(—Bruce Kerr)

Orange BouquetWe have friends who lost a son to suicide this past year, friends who lost their beautiful daughter (and mother of 4) in a car accident, and friends whose beloved daughter died of illness after just one day in the hospital last fall. We have friends who are just now going through the terrors of chemotherapy for a return of breast cancer and others who are deep in the throes of dealing with the wife’s deadly brain cancer. And, that is just the tip of the iceberg in a world that reels between ecstasy and misery.Handyman Bouquet           Much as I wish I could fix things for the aching hearts of loved ones, Veterans showing Respectsorrow marches on, and there isn’t much any of us can do besides try to “be there” for them, which is totally inadequate in the midst of their flooding grief. Brother   Perhaps you, or someone you love, was filled with sorrow this Valentine’s Day. SoldierPlease know that I am praying by name for those of you whose grief I know, and I am also praying for help in all the unobserved griefs troubling those of you who read this.  May I offer this ancient Hebrew blessing to you?

“The LORD bless thee, and keep thee;
The LORD make his face shine upon thee and be gracious unto thee:
The LORD lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.”
(Numbers 6:24-26)

“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

2 thoughts on “Valentine’s Grief Observed

  1. Your beautiful tribute is comforting to those who have lost someone who will never be replaced. That’t the thing about being unique, nobody can be replaced. I know what you mean by ” “be there” for them, which is totally inadequate in the midst of their flooding grief.” Thank you, Kathy.

    1. Very sorry to miss you at the funeral, Jane, but looking forward to getting together ASAP! Yes, I feel totally helpless to relieve such loss. 😦

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