“Empower Aging” and Marie’s Legacy

DSCN0851Last week Alan went to a conference entitled “Empower Aging” and last weekend we attended a funeral honoring the life and death of Marie H., the mother and grandmother of dear friends. It was the first funeral where I identified more closely with the deceased’s role as “grandma” then any of their other relationships. Her young adult grandchildren spoke with impassioned tenderness and tears. I’ve seen this before, but it never hit me quite so hard or left such a lasting impression. Marie loved her grand kids, and they all knew it! She was “there for them,” taking an interest in everything they did (even their crazy music, no matter what taste), always trying to help, giving gifts, and affirming them. I knew Marie, because she used to visit our chapel’s “Second Sunday”  programs to hear her grand kids back in the days when Alan and I helped sponsor our youth group. She was some grandma!!!

Concerning the seminar on “empower aging,” I think we all know the drill: eat right; exercise; get your rest; stay connected and social; read and exercise your brain; volunteer in meaningful ways to help others, be under the care of a good physician and seek medical attention as needed…

Be good and do good…and keep on keepin’ on! I can do that. Or—at least—I am trying to do that! Yesterday we had our three youngest sons (and Daniel’s bride, Brianna) over for dinner. Dan asked Alan and me what we wanted as a legacy if/when we should happen to die. Great question! DSCN0852I had been asking myself the same question! When I pass from this life to the next, what do I hope to leave behind? If I were looking down from heaven on my own funeral, what would I hope to hear? Do you know the answer to those questions for yourself? Do you know where you’ll be going after you die?IMG_3839The answers for me are pretty simple. I’ll be going to heaven, not because I’ve “earned” anything, but because Jesus died for my sins and has given me his eternal life as a free gift, which I’ve gratefully accepted. As for legacy:  I don’t care about monuments…or even tombstones, really! I’d love to be known for having loved my husband and children…and for being a great grandma like Marie. But most of all, what I’d like to leave behind is the beauty of Jesus engraved on the faces of my spiritual offspring (which I saw at the funeral) and the fragrance of Christ, which is always around us, recognized by more people for what it is. I would like to have lived in such a way that more people see God when they look up and understand that it is His Holy Spirit when they sense a presence stirring deep within their hearts. I would like more people to hear that God loves them with everlasting love, and I would like to know that there are more children within the family of God because I was standing by when they were given rebirth.

“Thou shalt have no inheritance in their land, neither shalt thou have any part among them: I am thy part and thine inheritance” (Numbers 18:20).

“After these things the word of the LORD came unto Abram in a vision, saying,     Fear not, Abram: I am thy shield, and thy exceeding great reward.”            (Genesis 15:1)

2 thoughts on ““Empower Aging” and Marie’s Legacy

  1. Interesting that I would read this just now. I am working on a project that walks individuals through creating their mission statement. As an example I used an online resource through Stephen Covey organization. I just finished not 10 minutes before reading this. I’m encouraged now to get back to the real project. I’m excited and fearful all at the same time. Now I know it’s an important step at any age in the 20s or the 80s. it’s not all about mission, it;s also about legacy. We are never to old to be what we are to become.

    1. Thanks for sharing this!. Your last sentence is quotable!! I’m going to remember that one. I hadn’t thought much about legacy, either, although “now is the hour.” (Well, as you say, every hour is the hour!)

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