Song of Solomon 3:2 “I will rise now, and go…” Did the bride submit to the will of her husband? No. Why? Because she lacked faith. What did she do? She decided to take matters into her own hands. Where did she go? “About the city in the streets, and in the broad ways.” Could she have possibly imagined that he would want her out in the middle of the night wandering around looking for him? Is there a husband alive who would want his wife out crisscrossing the streets of the city and walking along the highways searching for him? I think not. Her selfwill was a very foolish, selfish thing. She was not thinking of what he would want for her; she was only thinking of what she wanted. She wanted him, and she would find him, regardless of the danger, and regardless of the cost. She was unwilling to wait for him to return to her. She wanted him, and she wanted him now.
It is said that true love can wait but fleshly desires cannot. “Charity suffereth long…doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil…beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things…” (I Corinthians 13:4-7). This young bride had not learned true love. She could not wait; she behaved irresponsibly; she sought her own; she was quickly provoked into foolish action; she doubtless was thinking evil or she would not have left home; and she was unable to bear the separation, believe he would return unharmed, hope for the best, and endure the night alone.
How many times in marriage does a wife not trust her husband? Truly, human husbands are not always perfectly trustworthy, but that does not give the wife cause to leave home and go looking for him. A wrong action is never justified just because it is a reaction to what is thought to be a previously committed wrong action. Is your husband out late? Do you fear that he is unable to take care of himself? If he is in danger, you are most unlikely to be able to help him out. Ninety-nine times out of one hundred, your presence would only increase his danger, because then he would have to protect you as well as himself. If he is involved in sin, seeking him in the middle of the night will not help. The wife cannot force her husband to “be good” just by exposing his sin. Only God can change the heart.
What should you do if you awaken in the night and your husband is not there…literally or figuratively? “Pray without ceasing” (I Thessalonians 5:17). “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you” (I Peter 5:7). “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7).
“Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him.” If you do these things, “it shall be said in that day, Lo, this is our God; we have waited for him, and he will save us; this is the Lord; we have waited for him, we will be glad and rejoice in his salvation” (Isaiah 25:9). Oh, frightened wife, wait, wait, wait on the Lord, and in the end, you will be able to rejoice in the way he works everything out! “Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved” (Psalm 55:22). Do not fly like a frightened quail out of the nest, pursued by Satan’s hunting dogs. Give God your insecurities and anxieties, and continue in faith, hope, and love. Be discreet, chaste, a keeper of the home, sensitively submitted to your husband’s directives (Titus 2:4-5)… “Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement” (I Peter 3:6). Follow the example of godly women who’ve gone before you. Remember Sarah, and believe God’s promises. What did God say to Sarah when she doubted? “Is any thing too hard for the Lord? At the time appointed I will return unto thee…” (Genesis 18:14)
Like Sarah of old, the bride needed to wait on her Lord, remembering that “at the time appointed I will return unto thee.” How we need that reminder today as well! Not “I will” but “Thy will.” Not “I will rise now, and go” but “Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord” (Psalm 27:14).